Adults who have messed up, did you ask your parents for help?

[ChrisCramer247]

Hi all,

Well I f'ed up. Business has been going bad, I've taken less clients to get through college, too many investments in my business, school payments, etc.. etc..

I am 21 now and have about 1200 of debt I need to pay this month (rent, util's, SB tax). I feel bad asking them for more money even though they have given me so much. My dad is on his 2nd divorce and paying for it. My mom, well she is a balls to the walls business woman and I am sure she will want to give me a loan on it with interest.

I know they will be more than willing to help out, but I feel bad asking. I also feel like I am a failure / moocher by asking them.

Still, my fault. I will pay the price for my actions.

any suggestions or helpful hints getting through this?

I am going to ask my dad for the money and tell him I will pay him back when I can, but still want to see what ya'll have done.

TIA

Chris

 

[Gurck]

Swallow your pride.

 

[ChrisCramer247]

Originally posted by: Gurck
Swallow your pride.

Yep, and I think I need to eat some bills while i swallow it

 

[Koing]

dam dude

I'd just ask your father. Your mum sounds 'iffy' to me. Charging interest on a loan to a family member? wtf?! That sort of thing is unheard of in my family.

Koing

 

[ChrisCramer247]

Originally posted by: Koing
dam dude

I'd just ask your father. Your mum sounds 'iffy' to me. Charging interest on a loan to a family member? wtf?! That sort of thing is unheard of in my family.

Koing

Yeah my mom is a very business oriented woman. She really should have been born a man i think

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Dude, your moms a bitch. no offense.

 

[bozack]

Originally posted by: ChrisCramer247


Yeah my mom is a very business oriented woman. She really should have been born a man i think

not to pry but is that partially behind their divorce? I grew up in a very different situation, where both my parents sucked but my mom would give me money no questions asked if needed....my father still remembers debts to this day of like a nickle but since he was a royal dick the past few years he won't see a dime out of me

if I were you I would try and hit up the mom and see what "terms" she wants to give you...if she does want interest tell her thanks but no thanks and then figure something else out.

 

[eLiu]

Live and learn...and then get Luvs

Edit: But seriously...swallow your pride and get some help. Parents are better than a collections agency...(extreme example, but still you get the point).

 

[bockchow]

i'd have no problem asking my dad, to bad he already owes me 5k and is never going to pay up, freakin deadbeat

 

[jyates]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Dude, your moms a bitch. no offense.

Hard to say that without offense there Triforceofcourage. :disgust:



Chris,
I hope that my kids (when they get older) will come to me
if they need help.

Trying to go to school and also work is tough but others have made
it and you can too. Just watch the pennies and the dollars will take
care of themselves.

Good luck to you buddy.

Jim

 

[ChrisCramer247]

Originally posted by: jyates

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Dude, your moms a bitch. no offense.

Hard to say that without offense there Triforceofcourage. :disgust:



Chris,
I hope that my kids (when they get older) will come to me
if they need help.

Trying to go to school and also work is tough but others have made
it and you can too. Just watch the pennies and the dollars will take
care of themselves.

Good luck to you buddy.

Jim

TY Jim. True about the dollars, now if the IRS and state wouldn't tax the crap out of me for LLC Small Business with no payroll .

I just got off the phone with him and he says it is no big deal and is writing me a check for the debt.

Still is like a shot to the system as an adult not being able to provide for yourself.

 

[ChrisCramer247]

Originally posted by: bozack

Originally posted by: ChrisCramer247


Yeah my mom is a very business oriented woman. She really should have been born a man i think

not to pry but is that partially behind their divorce? I grew up in a very different situation, where both my parents sucked but my mom would give me money no questions asked if needed....my father still remembers debts to this day of like a nickle but since he was a royal dick the past few years he won't see a dime out of me

if I were you I would try and hit up the mom and see what "terms" she wants to give you...if she does want interest tell her thanks but no thanks and then figure something else out.

Eh my life long story short, both my parents are very succesfull:

1. Dad has affair with secretary
2. Mom has affair with boss
3. Mom didn't like Dad helping her family (she hated her father for various reasons)
4. Mom divorces Dad.
5. Dad taks primary custody of me
6. Dad marries secretary/ stepmom
7. Mom v. Stepmom and I am the middle man for all communications btw. mom and dad.
8. Stepmom abusive bitch who more or less treated me like absolute dog crap, dad finally divorces her last year.

After the second divorce my dad went to AA and a shrink and has atoned and apologized to everyone he has hurt. Mom made up with family etc...

So all is well, thanks to Zoloft for me

 

[Peetoeng]

Everyone else got lucky, but you got zoloft. That's fair, I guess.

Originally posted by: ChrisCramer247
Eh my life long story short, both my parents are very succesfull:

1. Dad has affair with secretary
2. Mom has affair with boss
3. Mom didn't like Dad helping her family (she hated her father for various reasons)
4. Mom divorces Dad.
5. Dad taks primary custody of me
6. Dad marries secretary/ stepmom
7. Mom v. Stepmom and I am the middle man for all communications btw. mom and dad.
8. Stepmom abusive bitch who more or less treated me like absolute dog crap, dad finally divorces her last year.

After the second divorce my dad went to AA and a shrink and has atoned and apologized to everyone he has hurt. Mom made up with family etc...

So all is well, thanks to Zoloft for me

 

[KarenMarie]

You should always be ale to ask your parents for help.

My parents are as bad as yours, or worse, but I would ask if I needed to, and I am 41yrs old. VeggieFrog will be 20yrs old in October, and I would do whatever she asked of me if she needed help. And I would do so until the day I die.

I bet your parents would be willing. whether or not they are able might be something totally different.

In any case, asking is always free.

 

[Zim Hosein]

Adults who have messed up, did you ask your parents for help?

Yes, and they were gracious enough to have the necessary means it to help me, I swallowed my pride and I learned

Good luck ChrisCramer247 :beer: