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Adopting from China!! Anyone here been through this?

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AndrewR

Lifer
My wife and I have decided to adopt from China since we haven't been able to have a baby on our own, and our proximity makes a trip there quite easy (plus it's much, much cheaper than some of the other options). DAMN, it's a complicated process with forms and affidavits and notarizations and such out the butt -- if they made you do this for a pregnancy, there would definitely be negative population growth everywhere. We have something wonderful to look forward to, however, and I understand the reasons for the process so I'm not really complaining. We both just really want to be parents, and this is the only way we can do it.

Anyone else here have experience with international adoptions, particularly from China? Any advice is appreciated! We've already settled on an agency as well as another agency to conduct the home study so those aren't issues.
 
I have a friend that adopted from China. Take a lot of cash with you , when you go to China. Almost all of the officials are corrupted over there.
no joke
 
My wife processed claims for co-workers that were adopting over there. Her company actually paid a portion of the expense of adopting them. ~5k i think
 
Why not adopt from Japan? My friend's mom is like the lead US or CA contact for American couples adopting Japanese babies. My friend is adopted herself.
 
My sister adopted from the Philipines. Little Joshua is adorable!

According to Filipino law, they must be foster parents for a year before they can officially adopt him. The year is complete this month, so they're going to the courthouse to adopt later this month, and will be having a big party!

Andrew, you have my deepest admiration and respect. Adoption, especially internationally, takes enormous courage and trust. You will be in my prayers.
 
major props to you. i will probably go this route also if i can't have kids. 🙂 I don't know much about the process except that it can be lengthy.
 
My youth group leaders in high school adopted a beautiful baby girl from China. It was a pricey, but worth every penny and then some to them... you and your wife will be doing a wonderful thing, congratulations and good luck. Keep us informed!
 
Originally posted by: Zebo
Is adopting american children so hard? I never knew that. Congrats AndrewR🙂
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They put too many restrictions on adopting parents in the states. Whereas in other countries all you need is green.

A kid growing up in a foster home here will have a whole lot better life than one growing up in an orphanage over there.
 
Congrats 😀

No matter where you adopt your child........ you & your wife are doing a great thing 🙂

Cheers,
Aquaman
 
I am a white dude with a Korean sister. I can't remember much of the process though since I was 10 at the time. I just remember we had some lady over to make sure we weren't freaks and we had to go to the airport to pick her up.
 
Sorry I haven't been back here in awhile, but we've been touring my wife's parents around Okinawa. They leave tomorrow for the mainland. It's been nice seeing them, but I'm sure I don't need to explain how it is after 10 days...

Anyway, thanks for the words of support. However, we're not being altruistic here -- I can't take credit for our motivation being making some little girl's life better, though it's a happy byproduct. We want to be parents, plain and simple, and I am fairly confident that we'll be at least good parents. We also really don't care if she doesn't look like us or is not of our genetic makeup since she will be no less our child than one that my wife gives birth to. Before we started trying to have a child, we agreed that adoption was always an option if needed. Besides, little Chinese girls are absolutely adorable!! Also, quite frankly, we cannot afford any of the other options, which run at least twice as much as a Chinese adoption and can have arduous travel requirements (either extended stays or multiple trips).

Originally posted by: sygyzy
Why not adopt from Japan? My friend's mom is like the lead US or CA contact for American couples adopting Japanese babies. My friend is adopted herself.
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In 2000, the total number of babies adopted from Japan was something like 40. That's TOTAL, according to the State Department. Plus, the Japanese government does not want Americans living on Okinawa to adopt local children from the orphanages here. God forbid they should have loving families instead of growing up orphans. In China, the comparable figure is slightly over 5,000.

adobt a girl since most of them get killed
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Around 97% of Chinese adoptions are girls. The ones that aren't are typically special needs children. Since I'm in the military and must rely on military medical care, we are NOT accepting a special needs child because we cannot promise the best medical care or any continuity of care with moving every three years (and doctors moving at the same rate).

Is adopting american children so hard? I never knew that. Congrats AndrewR
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Domestic adoptions aren't necessarily hard, just extremely expensive (quotes we've seen are about $40,000). Plus, even if you go through the whole process, you aren't guaranteed a child for various reasons. With international adoptions, you will get a slightly older child (~1 year), but once you are accepted and have completed the paperwork, you WILL get a child.
We like that certainty.
 
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