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Originally posted by: PanzerIV
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: Skoorb
I also said that i valued our relationship as friends wayy too much for it to fall as a bf/gf relationship.
What a cop out!

I agree.

It amuses me that people say this. So what does this mean? you can only have a relationship with those whom you are NOT friends with?

Does anybody realize how stupid this sounds?

To have a sustainable relationship, friendship is necessary.


Agreed. Admittedly I don't know all of the specifics of this guy's situation anymore than the rest of you do, but on the surface it seems rather silly to NOT want a dear, close friend to become more.

I have come to see this realization as one of the keys to emotional maturity. It is truly sad when people can't connect emotional and physical intimacy, it makes for really good sex, and a happy home life. At least in my experience.
 
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: Skoorb
I also said that i valued our relationship as friends wayy too much for it to fall as a bf/gf relationship.
What a cop out!

I agree.

It amuses me that people say this. So what does this mean? you can only have a relationship with those whom you are NOT friends with?

Does anybody realize how stupid this sounds?

To have a sustainable relationship, friendship is necessary.


Agreed. Admittedly I don't know all of the specifics of this guy's situation anymore than the rest of you do, but on the surface it seems rather silly to NOT want a dear, close friend to become more.

I have come to see this realization as one of the keys to emotional maturity. It is truly sad when people can't connect emotional and physical intimacy, it makes for really good sex, and a happy home life. At least in my experience.

...maybe he found out shes terrible in the sack 😀
 
I have come to see this realization as one of the keys to emotional maturity. It is truly sad when people can't connect emotional and physical intimacy, it makes for really good sex, and a happy home life. At least in my experience.

The thing is that i realize my future partner WILL have to be my best friend. In that case, the friends stage would have to be the base of our relationship, with anything after that as topping.

But, i know it all sounds retarded because i broke things off with her because we were "good" friends. I hoped that our relationship could upgrade (dayamn i'm a dork, i can't think of the right word) to something more. It was only then that i found out I only thought of her as a friend, nothing more. As the good friend he is, Nutbucket told me it's just the mindset i was in.

Sooo, the problem is not that i didn't want to be in a relationship because she was a good friend, it was because i couldn't see us as anything more. Sorry for the confusion.

Btw, we were good kids, ya pervs 😛
 
Originally posted by: erikiksaz
I have come to see this realization as one of the keys to emotional maturity. It is truly sad when people can't connect emotional and physical intimacy, it makes for really good sex, and a happy home life. At least in my experience.

The thing is that i realize my future partner WILL have to be my best friend. In that case, the friends stage would have to be the base of our relationship, with anything after that as topping.

But, i know it all sounds retarded because i broke things off with her because we were "good" friends. I hoped that our relationship could upgrade (dayamn i'm a dork, i can't think of the right word) to something more. It was only then that i found out I only thought of her as a friend, nothing more. As the good friend he is, Nutbucket told me it's just the mindset i was in.

Sooo, the problem is not that i didn't want to be in a relationship because she was a good friend, it was because i couldn't see us as anything more. Sorry for the confusion.

Btw, we were good kids, ya pervs 😛

Translation: You are not physically attracted to her.
 
Originally posted by: Shelly21
Originally posted by: The_good_guy
go apologise..

I made that mistake once back in HS.. never again.. well i cant say never again.. but the point is that go apologise.. and give it a try..

it will be worth your time.. in the end if it doesnt work out, you got your friendship to hold on to..

You need to kick Tyler out of the house/apartment.

I agree
 
Originally posted by: StormRider
Originally posted by: erikiksaz
I have come to see this realization as one of the keys to emotional maturity. It is truly sad when people can't connect emotional and physical intimacy, it makes for really good sex, and a happy home life. At least in my experience.

The thing is that i realize my future partner WILL have to be my best friend. In that case, the friends stage would have to be the base of our relationship, with anything after that as topping.

But, i know it all sounds retarded because i broke things off with her because we were "good" friends. I hoped that our relationship could upgrade (dayamn i'm a dork, i can't think of the right word) to something more. It was only then that i found out I only thought of her as a friend, nothing more. As the good friend he is, Nutbucket told me it's just the mindset i was in.

Sooo, the problem is not that i didn't want to be in a relationship because she was a good friend, it was because i couldn't see us as anything more. Sorry for the confusion.

Btw, we were good kids, ya pervs 😛

Translation: You are not physically attracted to her.

😉
 
Dude, don't sweat it. I've promised women all kinds of things to get them into bed only to never call them ever again.
 
Originally posted by: PunDogg
i think you did the right thing, but maybe wait a little bit next time. Cuz u could just be getting used to the relationship aspect. But its too late now hehe

if you slept with her and then broke up with her, your a basterd, but if u didn;t things should calm down.

Dogg

exactly what he said. yes, you disappointed her but hey, love ain't easy.


Wow, a woman got the "Lets just be friends" line for once. See how they like
...
Translation: You are not physically attracted to her.

exactly what thry said too 🙂
 
You're not a BASTARD! You just wanted a fvck buddy not a GF. You're a guy, that's understandable. 😉
 
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