A theory I made up (I know it could be wack)

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evolvedbullet

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Straight to the point, I can't get any friends or girlfriends because school is a real time hogger and might I add my mind is having a battle with itself. I can stop the fighting in my head every now and then but when it comes down to being dedicated, I lose my motivated mood because of fear. Don't laugh, I fear my mother, brother, everyone in my family. If any of them are in the same room or within a small area of my room, I can't work that well plus it makes me uncomfortable.

*I fear them because they ask me to do things, rejecting their proposals eliminates any chance for repayment in services (I help my brother out with a little computer problem, he make me a pizza, fair trade). My parents are bearable, but they ask something from me every 30 minutes of the day. It gets on my nerves.*

I've decided that their is only two ways of living a young life:
1) Indulge yourself in the world of knowledge and education, but sacrifice your plausible friends and girlfriends.

2) Hang out with friends and learn how to have a good time with others. Possibly experiment with drugs. But sacrifice your education and the plausibility of achieving a grand future.

These are theory's, so their questions without any support or evidence, only from ethical background.



If you want to share your opinion, go ahead.
 
thecoolnessrune

thecoolnessrune

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I chose purely education since I was homeschooled and didn't live anywhere around other children. However, now in college I do have *some* interaction, it's just not that high up on my agenda. I still don't attend parties, nor do I hang out with people. I find the education route to be the most satisfying.

I would say my twin brother acts the direct opposite.
 
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evolvedbullet

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Originally posted by: her209
How about a little of both (minus the experimentation with drugs)?
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I tried that, it didn't work well. For me, I'm screwed if I'm in two worlds at once. I need to be in one of them at a time. Sometimes I'm in my peaceful world, sometimes I'm in my hellish world (watching tv because of boredom, playing video games and not really enjoying them, attempting to ask women out that I liked for years only to get turned down, etc.).
 
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needalife

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Work hard and play hard bro. It gets harder to have fun as you get older. 17 is a great age to go out and meet different people.
 
UberNeuman

UberNeuman

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I think you don't have friends/girlfriends because you're a borderline sociopath...

/good luck with that...
 
her209

her209

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
Originally posted by: her209
How about a little of both (minus the experimentation with drugs)?
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I tried that, it didn't work well. For me, I'm screwed if I'm in two worlds at once. I need to be in one of them at a time. Sometimes I'm in my peaceful world, sometimes I'm in my hellish world (watching tv because of boredom, playing video games and not really enjoying them, attempting to ask women out that I liked for years only to get turned down, etc.).
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:confused:
 
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Pepsi90919

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"St. Catharines Psychiatric Helpline, this is Nancy"

"I'm sure this is all going to sound really ridiculous, and I don't exactly expect anything over all this. Over the last little while I've kept correspondence with my sanity, and I really get the feeling that I'm starting to lose interest in the letter-writing process. It seems all the letters just get, you know, progressively shorter and shorter with all of the replies. The whole thing makes me really nervous. I just wish I could show you what a huge problem this is."

As life hangs beside me, I gather all that I can
You were never one for confrontation
But now it lies all in your hands


"I kind of have this really terrible habit of asking myself all these stupid questions, right. And like, what if there's a spot on my body that I can touch that'll stop my heart from beating? Or like, what if there's an insane woman out there that'll come through my window and freak me out? And what if there's an unstoppable comet that's gonna, like, destroy the earth and all of us? Like, what if that's happening right now? How can I avoid all these questions if I don't have that? Who's going to be by you? Who's going to be there to be irrational? Who's going to stop all this bullshit? I keep thinking about, right now... all these awful things, and I don't believe it. Where do I have to go so it'll stop? I'll never sleep."

Who will be there to tell me how stupid I am?

Who will keep me from lashing out?
Anxiety chokes me like razor wire.
 
nick1985

nick1985

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Originally posted by: Saint Michael
Eh... I have a social life and a 4.0... of course it helps that I'm a genius. Good luck, sucker.
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CasioTech back on a different account?
 
Gunslinger08

Gunslinger08

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Like everything else in life, it's about balance.

I had a 4.0 in high school, a 3.8 in college, and now make about double the median income in my area. I still had plenty of fun and got into plenty of trouble with my friends, while maintaining a steady girlfriend. You just have to be able to balance it all.
 
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Tiamat

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Nov 25, 2003
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Shrugs, i have enough time for studies, gaming, hanging out with my buddies, and a girlfriend. She has enough time for working, gaming, hanging out with her friends, and me. It all depends on who the sig other is and if their schedule is compatible with yours.
 
Ruptga

Ruptga

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Stop writing about your problems on ATOT and use the saved time to meet some people ;)

Seriously, you're overanalyzing this, and you've given us a false dichotomy; it's entirely possible to have lots of friends, maintain a B average, and not do drugs, trust me on this one. Stop playing games and whatnot if you really don't like them, find something productive to do! (Note that productive doesn't necessarily mean work, goofing off with friends is quite productive since it builds important relationships.)
 
Kirby

Kirby

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simple answer is do school shit on the weekends, party hard friday and saturday night. and smoke a little green, you sound way too uptight.
 
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Injury

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Originally posted by: evolvedbullet
If it matters, 17
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It does... because life doesn't REALLY start until you're about 20. Everything else is just practice.

Go balls out now. School probably isn't a time hogger, it's probably just an EXCUSE as to why you can't do things. NOW is the time to find that balance. Keep in mind that when you finish college and you are looking for a job, only the most elite of places give a crap how you did in high school.

As long as you are passing and you aren't dumb as a rock, high school is only to impress the college you want to get in to... and even the ivy league schools require some background of social and extracuricular activities for acceptance.

This "battle in my head" crap is stupid. Stop being overly dramatic and go out on Friday night. Things would be different if you said you have school and a job, but if you're saying that school, which is typically 40 hours a week, takes 168 hours of focus a week to keep on track, then you're trying to hard to be an over-acheiver and you will fail miserably in college.



PS: You're emo. Stop that. (queue M4H with *craaaawwwwling...*)
 
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chusteczka

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You sound like a 16 year old trying to find your place in life. This is not a bad thing, everyone goes through it. I am happy to see that you are 17 and not 35.

Achieving an education and having friends are not mutually exclusive. Make friends with other students that study well and are focused in the achievement of their education. These are the types of friends that will serve you best. Anyone living in a life associated with drugs should immediately be removed from your list of potential friends. You want friends you can do your homework with, at your level of achievement. That way, you can learn, spend time with friends, and not lose your study time explaining things to others. When you are stuck, they will help you, and vice versa. You are not the only person staying at home on the weekends to study and get your school work finished. You just need to find those other students that are also staying home on the weekends and study with them on the weekends.

You need to find a different place to study and tell your parents not to bother you when you are studying.

What is with all this fear shit? Is this what EMO is? (like Injury mentioned above) You need to toughen up and be a man. That method of thinking makes me sick. I feel so old, kind of like my grandparents when they wanted to kick my ass in shape.

You only get one mind in life. Take care of it, work it, and learn to use it.
Similarly, you only get one body in life. Take care of it, work it, and learn to use it.

Each day:
  • do 10 pushups in the morning and 10 each night,
  • do 40 situps each night (or 20 leglifts),
  • do pullups every time you walk past that pullup bar in the fieldhouse (one or two is perfectly fine, palms away),
  • do 20 lunges each morning,
  • run one mile on your toes every 2-3 days.

These core exercises will build your body without the artificial need for a gym. You will naturally progress in the number of repetitions you are able perform. Start small, develop your muscles, feel your muscles, and feel the energy and self-confidence this will naturally give you. Your life and emotional fitness will improve quickly and you will be well prepared to attract the girls by spring.
 
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