A serious thread about love and cravings.

[manlymatt83]

I've decided to post a serious-themed thread about something that has been rocking my mind for at least a year now, and it has come back to haunt me.

I'm at a point in my life right now where I'm chasing girls left and right, and attracted to almost any female. I recently met a girl, who is cute, VERY smart, VERY mushy like I am, in shape (which I'm very attracted to), mind of her own.... definitely LTR/wife material.

But for some reason, for the past few years, no matter how good of a girl I meet, and no matter how happy she makes me, I'm always turned upside down by alternate cravings.

Enter Kristin... or Mindy.... or Liz. Three girls that have been a part of my life over the past two years. Girls I do not really care about (nor do they care about me), but absolutely incredibly physically attractive. I've seen myself wait hand and foot on these girls even though their personality sucks and they were very boring, only because they made me "bubble".

I don't get that way with the new girl, and I didn't get that way with Heather (the girl I dated for three years). They both made me VERY happy (the new girl even more so).

So I guess my main question is....

Is it normal for me to crave sexually the girls with no personality and no smarts, but absolutely amazing looks? And if so, should I wait to get into a new relationship until such time as these cravings pass? Or will they never pass?

Also, I can honestly say that I can look at any of the girls I have dated in the past and think they are beautiful. Sure, they were very attractive and very pretty, and I could look at them at almost any given time and say "man, she looks really pretty.".... but its not the same thing. I've never gotten the feelings I get for said girls above (the "really hot" girls with no personality). But is that a given?

Any comments would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Xyo II]

My cravings are chewing on ice cubes. I can't get enough of them.

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I've decided to post a serious-themed thread about something that has been rocking my mind for at least a year now, and it has come back to haunt me.

I'm at a point in my life right now where I'm chasing girls left and right, and attracted to almost any female. I recently met a girl, who is cute, VERY smart, VERY mushy like I am, in shape (which I'm very attracted to), mind of her own.... definitely LTR/wife material.

But for some reason, for the past few years, no matter how good of a girl I meet, and no matter how happy she makes me, I'm always turned upside down by alternate cravings.

Enter Kristin... or Mindy.... or Liz. Three girls that have been a part of my life over the past two years. Girls I do not really care about (nor do they care about me), but absolutely incredibly physically attractive. I've seen myself wait hand and foot on these girls even though their personality sucks and they were very boring, only because they made me "bubble".

I don't get that way with the new girl, and I didn't get that way with Heather (the girl I dated for three years). They both made me VERY happy (the new girl even more so).

So I guess my main question is....

Is it normal for me to crave sexually the girls with no personality and no smarts, but absolutely amazing looks? And if so, should I wait to get into a new relationship until such time as these cravings pass? Or will they never pass?

Also, I can honestly say that I can look at any of the girls I have dated in the past and think they are beautiful. Sure, they were very attractive and very pretty, and I could look at them at almost any given time and say "man, she looks really pretty.".... but its not the same thing. I've never gotten the feelings I get for said girls above (the "really hot" girls with no personality). But is that a given?

Any comments would be greatly appreciated.

I think you're just young, As you get older, you tend to be attracted to other qualities in women than just looks. When you're younger, all you care about is hot looks, but as you get older, characteristics like intelligence, "good with children", responsible, witty...things like that start to be much more appealing that just looks alone.

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I've decided to post a serious-themed thread about something that has been rocking my mind for at least a year now, and it has come back to haunt me.

I'm at a point in my life right now where I'm chasing girls left and right, and attracted to almost any female. I recently met a girl, who is cute, VERY smart, VERY mushy like I am, in shape (which I'm very attracted to), mind of her own.... definitely LTR/wife material.

But for some reason, for the past few years, no matter how good of a girl I meet, and no matter how happy she makes me, I'm always turned upside down by alternate cravings.

Enter Kristin... or Mindy.... or Liz. Three girls that have been a part of my life over the past two years. Girls I do not really care about (nor do they care about me), but absolutely incredibly physically attractive. I've seen myself wait hand and foot on these girls even though their personality sucks and they were very boring, only because they made me "bubble".

I don't get that way with the new girl, and I didn't get that way with Heather (the girl I dated for three years). They both made me VERY happy (the new girl even more so).

So I guess my main question is....

Is it normal for me to crave sexually the girls with no personality and no smarts, but absolutely amazing looks? And if so, should I wait to get into a new relationship until such time as these cravings pass? Or will they never pass?

Also, I can honestly say that I can look at any of the girls I have dated in the past and think they are beautiful. Sure, they were very attractive and very pretty, and I could look at them at almost any given time and say "man, she looks really pretty.".... but its not the same thing. I've never gotten the feelings I get for said girls above (the "really hot" girls with no personality). But is that a given?

Any comments would be greatly appreciated.

It's called self control. Ditch the bimbos and grow up.

 

[pontifex]

you forgot the YAGT: in the title

dude, its normal to want stuff you can't have. you should be lucky you can even find girls that are attracted to you.

 

[jhayx7]

At some point in your life, possibly now, you will learn that there is more to life than great looks and sex. When I first met my current wife, I would also look at other women and wonder... but as time went by I fell more and more in love with her and other women's flaws were more obvious.

When you are ready to settle down, do it but don't wait too long, the good ones go quick!

 

[manlymatt83]

Originally posted by: pontifex
you forgot the YAGT: in the title

dude, its normal to want stuff you can't have. you should be lucky you can even find girls that are attracted to you.

No thats the thing. I CAN have them. Kristin liked me for 3 months while I was dating Heather, and so did Mindy.

And now, I find myself in the situation again where Liz (a REALLY hot girl with absolutely no brains) is incredibly interested in me.

And the thing is, I've never had one of those "one night stands with a really hot girl" that I've craved for a very long time. So I ask myself if I should just do stuff like that for a year, get it out of my system, and then I can settle down with someone more intriguing.

Or if I'm just being dumb and these cravings will pass.

 

[MisterJackson]

Are you just now discovering that you have a penis? I'm confused as to what the problem is?

 

[krunchykrome]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: pontifex
you forgot the YAGT: in the title

dude, its normal to want stuff you can't have. you should be lucky you can even find girls that are attracted to you.

No thats the thing. I CAN have them. Kristin liked me for 3 months while I was dating Heather, and so did Mindy.

And now, I find myself in the situation again where Liz (a REALLY hot girl with absolutely no brains) is incredibly interested in me.

And the thing is, I've never had one of those "one night stands with a really hot girl" that I've craved for a very long time. So I ask myself if I should just do stuff like that for a year, get it out of my system, and then I can settle down with someone more intriguing.

Or if I'm just being dumb and these cravings will pass.

First, stop using the word "craving." You sound like a strange weirdo.

 

[Alex]

its a phase dude... i was in long relationships for a good deal of my life from 14-21 (3 different girls) and always got burned in the end so i started dating this other girl and didn't really treat her very good... well she never knew but i always cheated on her and acted like i was single and didn't care cause i thought i was done with getting burned by girls. a year and a half later she finds out and breaks up with me (couple months ago) and now i finally realize just how much i loved her and how happy we were together and how i was such an a$$hole the whole time and regret it a lot... now i've been single for a couple months but mostly i just want to be with my ex again and haven't really picked up that many girls even though i've had chances... what goes around comes around!

 

[sash1]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome
I think you're just young, As you get old, you tend to be attracted to other qualities in women that just looks. When you're younger, all you care about is hot looks, but as you get older, characteristics like intelligence, "good with children", responsible, witty...things like that start to be much more appealing that just looks alone.

agreed. :thumbsup:

 

[dullard]

You are normal. Men are attracted to women. Women spend up to several hours a day trying to make men attracted to them. It is just impossible to avoid any desire. If you wait to date until you no longer desire other women, you'll die at age 80 alone and still drooling over other women.

It isn't desire that is the problem. It is attempting to fulfill that desire that is the problem.

Suppose you were in debt, and have a long term mortgage/car loan. Is it wrong to desire a new plasma TV set that you can't afford? No! Is it wrong to try to buy it when you can't afford it? Yes!

Is it wrong to desire other women when you are in a long-term relationship? No. Is it wrong to wait hand and foot on other women, flirt, and try to hit on them when you are in another relationship? Yes.

Just keep your actions under controll. You'll never be able to end desires.

 

[Azndude2190]

lol...wuts the problem again?

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: pontifex
you forgot the YAGT: in the title

dude, its normal to want stuff you can't have. you should be lucky you can even find girls that are attracted to you.

No thats the thing. I CAN have them. Kristin liked me for 3 months while I was dating Heather, and so did Mindy.

And now, I find myself in the situation again where Liz (a REALLY hot girl with absolutely no brains) is incredibly interested in me.

And the thing is, I've never had one of those "one night stands with a really hot girl" that I've craved for a very long time. So I ask myself if I should just do stuff like that for a year, get it out of my system, and then I can settle down with someone more intriguing.

Or if I'm just being dumb and these cravings will pass.

well then have them and get it out of your system. but most likely you'll always think the grass is greener on the other side.

 

[zebano]

Just control yourself mate. Go with the girl who will make you happy for more than 1 day.

 

[sao123]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: mjuszczak

Originally posted by: pontifex
you forgot the YAGT: in the title

dude, its normal to want stuff you can't have. you should be lucky you can even find girls that are attracted to you.

No thats the thing. I CAN have them. Kristin liked me for 3 months while I was dating Heather, and so did Mindy.

And now, I find myself in the situation again where Liz (a REALLY hot girl with absolutely no brains) is incredibly interested in me.

And the thing is, I've never had one of those "one night stands with a really hot girl" that I've craved for a very long time. So I ask myself if I should just do stuff like that for a year, get it out of my system, and then I can settle down with someone more intriguing.

Or if I'm just being dumb and these cravings will pass.

well then have them and get it out of your system. but most likely you'll always think the grass is greener on the other side.

bang one... get it over with... You'll come back to reality after this experience.

to complete the grass is greener analogy... you'll realize the green grass is actually artifical turf and doesnt graze as good as fine kentucky blue.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Are you just now discovering that you have a penis? I'm confused as to what the problem is?

It's another mjuszczak YAGT - that's the problem.

 

[manlymatt83]

bump

 

[jlbenedict]

Originally posted by: MmmSkyscraper

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
Are you just now discovering that you have a penis? I'm confused as to what the problem is?

It's another mjuszczak YAGT - that's the problem.

QFT

Mjuszczak: Turn in your man-card and stick to big-block Legos.

 

[BrokenVisage]

You and freedomsbeat post too many YAGT's for me to take any of you seriously with long-term relationship woes.

 

[Howard]

"I am in control of my girl situation."

lol you idiot

 

[rivan]

Originally posted by: krunchykrome

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I've decided to post a serious-themed thread about something that has been rocking my mind for at least a year now, and it has come back to haunt me.

I'm at a point in my life right now where I'm chasing girls left and right, and attracted to almost any female. I recently met a girl, who is cute, VERY smart, VERY mushy like I am, in shape (which I'm very attracted to), mind of her own.... definitely LTR/wife material.

But for some reason, for the past few years, no matter how good of a girl I meet, and no matter how happy she makes me, I'm always turned upside down by alternate cravings.

Enter Kristin... or Mindy.... or Liz. Three girls that have been a part of my life over the past two years. Girls I do not really care about (nor do they care about me), but absolutely incredibly physically attractive. I've seen myself wait hand and foot on these girls even though their personality sucks and they were very boring, only because they made me "bubble".

I don't get that way with the new girl, and I didn't get that way with Heather (the girl I dated for three years). They both made me VERY happy (the new girl even more so).

So I guess my main question is....

Is it normal for me to crave sexually the girls with no personality and no smarts, but absolutely amazing looks? And if so, should I wait to get into a new relationship until such time as these cravings pass? Or will they never pass?

Also, I can honestly say that I can look at any of the girls I have dated in the past and think they are beautiful. Sure, they were very attractive and very pretty, and I could look at them at almost any given time and say "man, she looks really pretty.".... but its not the same thing. I've never gotten the feelings I get for said girls above (the "really hot" girls with no personality). But is that a given?

Any comments would be greatly appreciated.

I think you're just young, As you get older, you tend to be attracted to other qualities in women than just looks. When you're younger, all you care about is hot looks, but as you get older, characteristics like intelligence, "good with children", responsible, witty...things like that start to be much more appealing that just looks alone.

/signed. Hot came off my list of must-have attributes after I recognized the almost automatic (there were a couple exceptions) inclusion of either a) a random psychosis/bitchiness issue or b) complete lack of intelligence. In the end I looked for the other things I was after and ended up finding those qualities in someone who's also hot

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I've decided to post a serious-themed thread about something that has been rocking my mind for at least a year now, and it has come back to haunt me.

I'm at a point in my life right now where I'm chasing girls left and right, and attracted to almost any female. I recently met a girl, who is cute, VERY smart, VERY mushy like I am, in shape (which I'm very attracted to), mind of her own.... definitely LTR/wife material.

But for some reason, for the past few years, no matter how good of a girl I meet, and no matter how happy she makes me, I'm always turned upside down by alternate cravings.

Enter Kristin... or Mindy.... or Liz. Three girls that have been a part of my life over the past two years. Girls I do not really care about (nor do they care about me), but absolutely incredibly physically attractive. I've seen myself wait hand and foot on these girls even though their personality sucks and they were very boring, only because they made me "bubble".

I don't get that way with the new girl, and I didn't get that way with Heather (the girl I dated for three years). They both made me VERY happy (the new girl even more so).

So I guess my main question is....

Is it normal for me to crave sexually the girls with no personality and no smarts, but absolutely amazing looks? And if so, should I wait to get into a new relationship until such time as these cravings pass? Or will they never pass?

Also, I can honestly say that I can look at any of the girls I have dated in the past and think they are beautiful. Sure, they were very attractive and very pretty, and I could look at them at almost any given time and say "man, she looks really pretty.".... but its not the same thing. I've never gotten the feelings I get for said girls above (the "really hot" girls with no personality). But is that a given?

Any comments would be greatly appreciated.

sounds to me like one day you are going to wake up and be an old playa, and all the good girls are gonna be taken.

 

[yowolabi]

I still think it's the forbidden fruit thing. Yes you can technically have those girls, but they wanted you at a time when you couldn't be with them without ramifications.

Try this experiment. Break up with your current girl, have sex with one of these girls that gives you a "bubble" and see how satisfied you are. I guarantee the experience will not be anywhere near as good as you imagine it to be and that you'll be bored almost immediately. But do it anyway. You'll learn once and for all that it's stupid to be craving these girls, and you'll do a favor to your future girlfriends so they don't have to compete with a dream.

 

[acid45]

WTF where are the PICS!??