There's some weird assumptions going on here.
Stop putting each gender in a little narrow box, it might have "worked"in th 1950`s and before. The world has changed, and once you have tasted freedom you don't want to crawl back into the box.
Obviously it is much more difficult now and requires the ability to reflect on yourself, your identity and the people you meet. You cannot make assumptions and expectations based on the traditional norms anymore.
That is the cost of personal freedom. Unfortunately it requires that you have been tought how to handle this, either through the educational system or through social network you have. And from my superfluous understanding of the US society this not something these men have access to.
But in their minds, other peoples' freedoms infringe on theirs, nevermind their freedoms have been infringing on others' for decades. As usual, just more of the broken conservative brain syndrome where they cannot handle the things they regularly do, and so resort to "might makes right" idiocy to try to get their way, and if they can't get their way, well they're gonna try and kill a bunch of people when they go out. Often this is their supposed loved ones.