a new twist on my roommate situation

[stev0]

last friday he decided that he was going to move out. he went to housing today and got a list of rooms that have openings. he got back today and said he wasen't going to move out... this is the second time that he has done this. to top it off he had people from his home town up, when i got back last night the room was a mess. there was 3 empty pizza boxes in the corner, the floor was covered with dirt and other random junk, my bed was all messed up (suspecting that someone slept in it) one of them left the caps off a few of my brush markers, about 3.50 each, now there are 4 that are all dried up.

I'm honestly about this far (making a gap about 1" with my fingers) from wailing on the kid, i honestly cant take it anymore.

before someones says "you stupid fvck, move out"... i can't move out of my dorm as i found out this afternoon, because i requested a room here... or atleast that is what i was told. he (my roomie) did not, and was just placed there, so he is free to move around. I can't move off of campus because first year students are required to live on campus, the only way would be for me to get evicted from the dorms, in that case i would not get my deposit back and would not get the rent that i paid on the dorm.

now it's pretty much gotten down to basic respect for your roommate, when i have friends over i clean up after them, he on the other hand didn't. when i have friends over i make sure they don't fvck around with his stuff... he on the other hand did not.

now just out of nowhere he said "if you do that again i will sue your ass"... what?! i did nothing, i'm sitting here writing this... what a joke, i didn't pay money to live with a headcase.

edit: to clear things up for people that are just posting here... I have tried to talk to the kid on a calm level, telling him that he needs to respect my space, as i do his. then his usual response is "this is my room too, why do you have to be such an asshole?" and will then put his headphones back on, or just turn to his computer and keep doing the annoying things that he does on it (playing the same songs over and over, watching movie trailers over and over, watching the same episodes of south park over and over...etc.)

 

[amnesiac]

Take a crap in his pillowcase then beat him senseless with it.

 

[Ameesh]

code red montoya's ass

 

[sohcrates]

bad roomates are a part of college. makes you wonder where these jackasses come from though that they behave like that...probably never got out of the house before

 

[Kenazo]

"one of them left the caps off a few of my brush markers"

oooh it's a hard life heh? Geez this is life in dorm, spend your time in your friends rooms, a girls room or out doing something. Tell him if he touches anything of yours you will beat him. Honestly, it's nice to get along with your roommate but it is not necessary. Consider this a maturing experience, the rest of your life you are going to be dealing with people you don't get along with, you better learn how to live with it now.

 

[Kenazo]

oh, btw, the more you obsess over it the more annoying he will be. Let it go.

 

[sohcrates]

it also helps to come to the realization that he probably hates you as well.

although i always thought i was the perfect roomate, it dawned on me once that my roomate was annoyed by just about everything i did as well.

we reached "equilibrium"

yeah, it sucks, but focus on your studies and you'll get through it. we've all been there

 

[virusag11]

I am a vengeful person and I repay people who treat me with disrespect (and expect it in return). Just get all his trash and jam it in his bed. Tell him to clean up after himself, and if his friends break anymore of your stuff, you are going to start to pawn his stuff to replace it.

 

[Kevin]

Document everything, take pictures and try to record some of the things he says. Should help your cause greatly since you'll have some hard evidence.

 

[stev0]

ooo now he's all "my dad is comming down on friday to 'resolve this issue' ".... wts is this?

 

[Platypus]

Regulate. Set up rules and if he breaks them, then you break him.

 

[Yossarian]

Instead of asking us these questions, why don't you ask him?

Ever see Full Metal Jacket? Have a Gomer Pyle soap & towel party.

 

[Keego]

Originally posted by: Kenazo
oh, btw, the more you obsess over it the more annoying he will be. Let it go.

That happened to me last year, I turned into a total jerk whenever he was around, I knew what I was doing but it was too late to stop.

 

[T2T III]

Did someone say "Blanket party?" Time to throw a blanket over his head/body while you and a few friends rough him up a little. I'll be willing to be after a good beatin' he'll never forget to put the caps back on the pens again.

 

[T2T III]

ooo now he's all "my dad is comming down on friday to 'resolve this issue' ".... wts is this?

Maybe, it's time you contacted campus security.

 

[T2T III]

n/m - double post.

 

[Platypus]

I don't want to sound like a prick, but a lot of us have been through this, hell my roomate and I barely speak some days because we get so angry about dumb sh*t. Just deal with it man. If he is honestly messing your stuff up with no regard, then confront him to his face about it, if he gives you lame answers or claims he doesn't care, then make him care. You are going to have to stand up for yourself, not to mention you're liviing with this dude for a long time, so make the best of it.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: Kyguy

Originally posted by: Kenazo
oh, btw, the more you obsess over it the more annoying he will be. Let it go.

That happened to me last year, I turned into a total jerk whenever he was around, I knew what I was doing but it was too late to stop.

this is true... i'm so far in though there is no way that i could stop...

bahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh let his dad come down, so he can see how messy this room really is. i've passed the point of being scared by other peoples parents... in fact i would be happy if he did start to threatin me and push me around... can someone say... lawsuit?

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
I don't want to sound like a prick, but a lot of us have been through this, hell my roomate and I barely speak some days because we get so angry about dumb sh*t. Just deal with it man. If he is honestly messing your stuff up with no regard, then confront him to his face about it, if he gives you lame answers or claims he doesn't care, then make him care. You are going to have to stand up for yourself, not to mention you're liviing with this dude for a long time, so make the best of it.

I did, i told him that the night that i got back, and he just put his headphones back on and went to his computer.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: PipBoy
Instead of asking us these questions, why don't you ask him?

Ever see Full Metal Jacket? Have a Gomer Pyle soap & towel party.

chances are i would get some sort of a hazing charge brought against me... i would rather not get kicked out of school.

 

[Kenazo]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
I don't want to sound like a prick, but a lot of us have been through this, hell my roomate and I barely speak some days because we get so angry about dumb sh*t. Just deal with it man. If he is honestly messing your stuff up with no regard, then confront him to his face about it, if he gives you lame answers or claims he doesn't care, then make him care. You are going to have to stand up for yourself, not to mention you're liviing with this dude for a long time, so make the best of it.

That is exactly my point also. I think you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and how terrible your roommate is. Have a sit down with him. Tell him you don't like him, and you don't like how he messes up your room, but you realize that you have to spend the year together. Lay down the rules and agree on them. Then forget about him and have fun in college.

Getting along well with people naturally is a rare thing in life, one of the most important things you have to learn in life is how to be civil to people you don't like.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
I don't want to sound like a prick, but a lot of us have been through this, hell my roomate and I barely speak some days because we get so angry about dumb sh*t. Just deal with it man. If he is honestly messing your stuff up with no regard, then confront him to his face about it, if he gives you lame answers or claims he doesn't care, then make him care. You are going to have to stand up for yourself, not to mention you're liviing with this dude for a long time, so make the best of it.

That is exactly my point also. I think you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and how terrible your roommate is. Have a sit down with him. Tell him you don't like him, and you don't like how he messes up your room, but you realize that you have to spend the year together. Lay down the rules and agree on them. Then forget about him and have fun in college.

Getting along well with people naturally is a rare thing in life, one of the most important things you have to learn in life is how to be civil to people you don't like.

I've tried to talk to the kid on a calm level, then he will interrupt me on how i'm being a jackass and it's his room too, then he goes and watches movie trailers and south park movies on his computer.

btw: i'm not feeling sorry for myself.

 

[ElFenix]

get him locked up for incest.

 

[stev0]

Originally posted by: ElFenix
get him locked up for incest.

would if i could

 

[Vette73]

If he uses any of your stuff like the markers, then call Campus Police. He is stealing. The student handbook might have more.

File a complaint with on-campus housing also.