A little backstory first. My cousin is 19 years old and she has a 7 month old baby named Neveah. She's relatively immature for her age, dropped out of school long ago, has never held down a job, etc. She's currently living with her boyfriend's father and his sister although she's spent short periods living with my mother. When she got pregnant there was a time when she was considering abortion. The rest of the family, myself f you cincluded, eventually convinced her that this was a bad decision
My mother recently had a telephone conversation with my aunt (my cousin's mother). My cousin has been trying to get her mother to allow her to move back in with her for some time now, claiming that she can't stand being with the baby all the time and that the responibility was literally driving her out of her mind. A few nights ago she dropped a real bomb on my aunt, claiming that she would "Kill the baby before it's a year old". Obviously this distressed my aunt a great deal and she called my mother (who is a social worker). The general concensus is that this is probably just a rather extreme tactic that my cousin is using to get what she wants, and that she really doesn't mean to harm the child. However we also agree that such things should never be taken lightly. Crimes of the sort that she threatened do indeed happen all the time, and she may truly be at the end of her rope.
The decision we made was that my mother would go talk to her. She would basically give her an ultimatum to admit right then and there that she wasn't serious, or my mother would call the Office of Community Services and let them deal with her.
What does ATOT think of this situation? Did we decide to do the right thing? Is it enough? I dunno maybe this is a bit serious for these forums.
*Update*
There have been new developments. She's pregnant again, by the same father. She claims that it was an accident and that he was using protection.
2 condom malfunctions in less than a year? I'm not buying that one.
One theory going around is that was that she consented to have unprotected sex IN ORDER TO get pregnant so that she could seal the deal with what is apparently her main man. In other words, it's the old "keep a niggah" baby.
The initial problem was more or less worked out to our satisfaction, we took the action I described and got an acceptable reaction. (we believe it was just immaturity). This is a different matter entirely. After her previous troubles I have serious doubts about her ability to cope with this new situation.
My mother recently had a telephone conversation with my aunt (my cousin's mother). My cousin has been trying to get her mother to allow her to move back in with her for some time now, claiming that she can't stand being with the baby all the time and that the responibility was literally driving her out of her mind. A few nights ago she dropped a real bomb on my aunt, claiming that she would "Kill the baby before it's a year old". Obviously this distressed my aunt a great deal and she called my mother (who is a social worker). The general concensus is that this is probably just a rather extreme tactic that my cousin is using to get what she wants, and that she really doesn't mean to harm the child. However we also agree that such things should never be taken lightly. Crimes of the sort that she threatened do indeed happen all the time, and she may truly be at the end of her rope.
The decision we made was that my mother would go talk to her. She would basically give her an ultimatum to admit right then and there that she wasn't serious, or my mother would call the Office of Community Services and let them deal with her.
What does ATOT think of this situation? Did we decide to do the right thing? Is it enough? I dunno maybe this is a bit serious for these forums.
*Update*
There have been new developments. She's pregnant again, by the same father. She claims that it was an accident and that he was using protection.
2 condom malfunctions in less than a year? I'm not buying that one.
One theory going around is that was that she consented to have unprotected sex IN ORDER TO get pregnant so that she could seal the deal with what is apparently her main man. In other words, it's the old "keep a niggah" baby.
The initial problem was more or less worked out to our satisfaction, we took the action I described and got an acceptable reaction. (we believe it was just immaturity). This is a different matter entirely. After her previous troubles I have serious doubts about her ability to cope with this new situation.
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