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a long time friend

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Synth3t1c

Senior member
Ive had this friend for almost 12 or so years now. We grew up together and everything. Lately, he has been acting like a real ass when around other people. Like saying things that are 100% uncalled for (things about my mom - shes way over protective, but hes called her a psycho bitch around other ppl when im there). It really hurts me, and Ive gotten pissed at him before for it, and confronted him as well. Hes been doing it for, once again, about a year or two, and i am fed up with it. should i cut off the friendship?

hes my only real friend, or was. i should say that too.


he also sometimes acts like an ass when its just me and him.
 
i say stop hanging out with him, you dont need an asshole making you look bad, dont be afraid to make new friends.
 
Originally posted by: Specop 007
Originally posted by: Synth3t1c
i hang out with others, your right. ****** him and his momma
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Pics?
Of him and his momma.
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LOL!

i had a friend that I stopped talking to about 8-9 years ago. My wife was 9 months pregnant and a bunch of guys went out drinking. We left one club and went to an after-hours club. About 3am, i was hammered and wanted to leave. Iasked my buddy for a ride since he was going to leave, anyway, and he refused to to take me to my car because I "shouldn't be driving." Fine...we offered to have another friend go, too, and then 1 friend would drive my car home with me and the other would follow so they would both get home without me driving. He refused because that was about 5 miles out of his (the opposite direction--total 10 mile detour)

I don't think I've talked to him since and I don't regret it. who needs friends like that?
 
just because your mom is a crazy bitch...

maybe hes just trying to kindly help you out...
some people dont realize problems with people they are close to (parents, siblings, girlfriends, etc.) tell your mother to back off... I am assuming you are an adult...
 
he wants to boink you mom... itb.



What is wrong with you goons this morning? Get outta here!
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ive had this happen with some of my friends...people just mature differently. once i went to college, i realized most of my friends from high school were actually huge d-bags so i just dont hang out with them anymore. no use in spending time with people that bring you down
 
Originally posted by: SirStev0
just because your mom is a crazy bitch...

maybe hes just trying to kindly help you out...
some people dont realize problems with people they are close to (parents, siblings, girlfriends, etc.) tell your mother to back off... I am assuming you are an adult...
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And you don't disrespect someone who they're close to in front of people you're not close with.

It's one thing if it's a running joke among friends, it's another thing if newcomers to the group thing it's ok to disrespect his mother when they don't even know him.
 
I only hang out with one of my friends from high school. But anyhow if you confronted him and he still wont stop start spending less time.
 
tell him to quit being a jerk...

if he doesnt there's only one other solution...

fight him... it'll either strengthen your friendship or end it.. either way its good for both of you...
 
I wonder what caused the change in him? Did something happen to him or did he just discovery the zen of being a jerk?
 
quit being so friggin EMO. Maybe he finally grew a pair and your still a complete Pu$$y who gets offended at the drop of a hat. Guys bust each others balls. Thats what we do. If you don't like it then maybe you should think about playing for the pink team.
 
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
quit being so friggin EMO. Maybe he finally grew a pair and your still a complete Pu$$y who gets offended at the drop of a hat. Guys bust each others balls. Thats what we do. If you don't like it then maybe you should think about playing for the pink team.
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QFT
 
Originally posted by: altonb1
i had a friend that I stopped talking to about 8-9 years ago. My wife was 9 months pregnant and a bunch of guys went out drinking. We left one club and went to an after-hours club. About 3am, i was hammered and wanted to leave. Iasked my buddy for a ride since he was going to leave, anyway, and he refused to to take me to my car because I "shouldn't be driving." Fine...we offered to have another friend go, too, and then 1 friend would drive my car home with me and the other would follow so they would both get home without me driving. He refused because that was about 5 miles out of his (the opposite direction--total 10 mile detour)

I don't think I've talked to him since and I don't regret it. who needs friends like that?
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I would like to hear his side of the story. From what you said, he seems like a prick for not driving a little out of his way to get you and your car home safely.

Having said that I've seen people who are very selfish and just assume others will go out of their way to help them. These same selfish people will begrugingly (if at all) provide help in return.

Looking at the situation, you may have been selfish driving to a club, drinking too much and then expecting him to go out of his way to get you and your car home safely. If this is something you tended to do to your friend over and over, maybe he'd had enough and was putting his foot down. In this case, he was justified in saying no.

From what I have learned, friends will go out of their way to make their friend's lives easier. So one of three cases exists:

1) He didn't consider you to be a true friend.
2) He did consider you to be a true friend, but is just very selfish and self-centered.
3) Even though he did consider you a true friend, he felt he was justified in saying no because of some other dynamics or history in the relationship.

 
Originally posted by: SirStev0
just because your mom is a crazy bitch...

maybe hes just trying to kindly help you out...
some people dont realize problems with people they are close to (parents, siblings, girlfriends, etc.) tell your mother to back off... I am assuming you are an adult...
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uh yea, he gets mad really when my mom calls to see where i am, but when another friend's mom does it, its ok.

and i dont care the situation, you dont call someones mother that at all
 
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
quit being so friggin EMO. Maybe he finally grew a pair and your still a complete Pu$$y who gets offended at the drop of a hat. Guys bust each others balls. Thats what we do. If you don't like it then maybe you should think about playing for the pink team.
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it stopped being busting my balls about a year ago. i get a phonecall and reguardless of who it is, he goes "OMG IS THAT YOUR MOM? ITS YOUR MOM ISNT IT?! WHAT A CRAZY ****** BITCH TELL THE PSYCHO TO LEAVE YOU ALONE."

*talk to whomever it is*

"WAS THAT YOUR MOM?! WHAT DID SHE SAY?!"
 
As you go through life, you'll learn that some "friends" aren't really friends. It's not worth your time to deal with his apparent issues.
 
Originally posted by: IcebergSlim
quit being so friggin EMO. Maybe he finally grew a pair and your still a complete Pu$$y who gets offended at the drop of a hat. Guys bust each others balls. Thats what we do. If you don't like it then maybe you should think about playing for the pink team.
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everyone knows the difference between a little fun and friendship ending behavior.


I'm sort of going through the same thing. It's like, they are supposed to be one of your best friends, but they stop taking the friendship seriously. That might sound weak, but when you even have to question "would this guy have my back in a bind" somethings not right in the friendship.

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Originally posted by: thirdeye
As you go through life, you'll learn that some "friends" aren't really friends. It's not worth your time to deal with his apparent issues.
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I've kind of taken this approach... we just see A LOT less of each other.
 
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