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A little update on my buddy's Valentine's day restraining order.

For those of you who don't remember the original thread or didn't read it, one of my friends at work got a restraining order from his wife on V day. He never laid a hand on her, all he did was tell her to shut up.

Well several weeks later he happened to see her through a store window while he was riding by on his bicycle. He pointed to her and said "I'll see you next Tues." (When they had to go to some meeting together) a day or so later the police showed up and arrested him, and he spent two days in jail!

When he finally went to court over the restraining order, the judge (A female judge BTW) tossed the order out! She said there was no grounds for it!!

He has voluntarily left the house so his kids can come home, and is staying with friends.

BTW: A week or so after he got the restraining order, he was served with divorce papers. They have three children. Two daughters (his) and a son that was a infant when they met. The boys father was a married man that she had been sleeping with before they met, but my friend has raised him as his own. Several times my friend asked his wife "Why don't you get child support from his father?" She refused to do so, so my friend has taken the full responsibility financially of raising another mans child. Yet she is asking for child support from him NOW for their two kids!

The boy just turned 18, and they just got their house paid off. Now she wants it sold and wants half of the $$ from the sale. She has never worked while they were married. Interesting timing don't you think?
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Edit: Oh yeah I forgot this little bit. While going through some papers around the house, he found bill's from a CC company totaling over 10 grand! All ran up by her without his knowladge. And here he was all happy that he was finally out of dept! Now he will probably get stuck with THAT to....
 
I'm sorry to hear that; but could there possibly be more to her side of the story? Legally she is entitled to half because of the committment she has put in at home. Cooking dinner, washing the laundry, cleaning the house even if it was a half/half responsibility divided between the man and wife, she can still argue and win half of the entitlement. Legally your friend is still liable for alimony, but if the debts on the CC is in his wife's name without any cosign agreement on your friends part, he should be cleared.

Your friend sure has a full plate in front of him. I'm sorry and apologize but I got a chuckle out of the waiving through the store front window incident. That's messed up!
 
Thanks for the update, Brutus.

Marriage is truly a scary thing. Young people just don't "SEE" that yeah, you're in love now and it's all flowers and "she'd NEVER do that to me..she loves me!" but down the line, when the feces collides with the oscillating blades that all bets are off and love goes the way of the Dodo.
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Interesting timing, indeed. Guaranteed she's been watching the mortage statements for the past five years and counting down in her head until the house is paid off.

On a related note, I find it appalling that if you are a member of the US Military and are married for more than 10 years during your entire length of service, then you get divorced, that your ex (man or woman) is entitled to 40% of your retired pension until the either one of you dies or remarries. I find that appalling.

Marriage is something I will probably never do. Whether or not I will regret that remains to be seen.
 
Damn, that's nuts. I hope he doesn't turn into my father, bitter and cynical to the end...
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Sorry I don't have anything more insightful to offer 😱
 
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: godmare
Damn, that's nuts. I hope he doesn't turn into my father, bitter and cynical to the end...

i think that he is entitled to be

I'll bet he is, too. Hey, aren't you supposed to be rebuilding some half-shafts or something? 🙂
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: godmare
Damn, that's nuts. I hope he doesn't turn into my father, bitter and cynical to the end...

i think that he is entitled to be

I'll bet he is, too. Hey, aren't you supposed to be rebuilding some half-shafts or something? 🙂

sway bar linkage. I'm going in a second. Gotta make a CD first
 
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: godmare
Damn, that's nuts. I hope he doesn't turn into my father, bitter and cynical to the end...

i think that he is entitled to be

I'll bet he is, too. Hey, aren't you supposed to be rebuilding some half-shafts or something? 🙂

sway bar linkage. I'm going in a second. Gotta make a CD first

You go!! Someday, I'll not have to work so much and can wheel more often and break more stuff like you do. 🙂 *drinking milk*
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: godmare
Damn, that's nuts. I hope he doesn't turn into my father, bitter and cynical to the end...

i think that he is entitled to be

I'll bet he is, too. Hey, aren't you supposed to be rebuilding some half-shafts or something? 🙂

sway bar linkage. I'm going in a second. Gotta make a CD first

You go!! Someday, I'll not have to work so much and can wheel more often and break more stuff like you do. 🙂 *drinking milk*

its not that glamorous 😉 Both joints on my front axle are dying, my rear axle is gonna dump fairly soon, my tires are eaten to hell, my transmission is acting funny, my radiator is so full of mud/dirt that it wont even drain, and my alternator is currently completely covered in mud. Its damned fun, though 😀
 
This kind of sh!t scares me, there are too many damn crazy bi@tchez out there.... and your friends to have found one of the worse ones. All I can say is I hope the judge he gets is understanding of the situation and notices your friend has just been used by that woman, and she only wants to continue to take advantage of him.
 
I'm sorry to hear about that crazy bee your friend got involved with. This is why I plan on waiting till I get married. Even if I find a great girl, we are going to be dating/living together for a while before I will propose. My mom and dad dated for like ten years before they got married (they met in H.S.) and they worked out really well.
 
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