A girl is gonna ask me out tomorrow, I don't know what to say...

[AndrewR]

If she's into illegal drugs, and it certainly sounds like she is, stay away is my advice. If she's in your car and you are pulled over for speeding, for instance, perhaps her "stash" might fall out or something -- goodbye car to police impoundment and hello a world of hurt for you, the car owner. Drinking is a legal drug (assuming you're 21), and millions of people drink every day without breaking the law or seriously screwing up their bodies. Cocaine use has never been proven to have beneficial effects.

Just my take on it, but I would have never dated anyone who did drugs. Too many worries, too many hassles, too much trouble even for a hottie. There are millions of hotties -- why waste time on one who can't deal with reality and who risks her entire future with a single conviction?

 

[The Dancing Peacock]

you guys are making this girl sound like a homeless naked crack fiend. If you can't deal with it, don't date her. You can't open your mind enough to not be hypocritical, then don't date her.

 

[Viperoni]

Dammit pid, just stick to drinks (vodka kurva! ).
Don't get her into a drug situation.
Should be okay.
But talking to her would be a good idea too...

 

[SilentBoB]

I think it is important to know what drugs she does to make a judgement here. If it is Marijuana or Alcohol then I wouldn't think very badly of her. Those two are common in high school and not very life threatening, unless the drinking is combined with driving or done really heavily a la binge drinking. If it is something really bad like crack, coke, or heroin, then I wouldn't suggest dating her because they are highly addictive and she may drag you down with her. Thats just my view on that.

 

[AndrewR]

<< You can't open your mind enough to not be hypocritical, then don't date her. >>



WTF? Open my mind to illegal drugs? Yes, that's what I want -- dead brain cells, a criminal record, maybe a little sinus destruction and nervous system damage, no job future. If that's what open minds encompass, then consider mine closed.

SexEPid: I just realized that you are in Canada and may not be subject to the same civil forfeiture laws we have in the States. It's still a bad idea though, but if she's a casual user, maybe you could convince her to stop.

 

[Namuna]

Alright, you made 2 points about this girl already...She's a flirt and she does casual drugs.

You say the flirting thing is no big deal, but if it weren't at least somewhat annoying, you wouldn't have brought it up. That's 1 bad point

She does drugs on a casual basis, but you didn't specify what types and how often. Leads me to believe it's more that Mary-Jane, that's a possible bad point...VERY bad.

I'd still say you should 'hang-out' with her, but go at it with the intention of being friends and nothing more. This will keep your mind open and may keep you from seeming 'too pushy' about the bad things she does.

If things work out, get more involved. If things get ugly, head out.

 

[Bling Bling]

i've had similar experiences. just stay friends for now. and definitely talk to her about it. i talked to the person about it, but she kinda blew it all off. we're still friends though, so it's all good.

 

[thraashman]

judging from when this post was started, this has already happened by the time I've posted. so how'd everything go man. Tell us the details.