30 something guys, still live with mom, not planning to move out and proud of it

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HybridSquirrel

HybridSquirrel

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i lived at home for a while after graduating because it was cheap and i couldn't cook worth shit.
 
Juked07

Juked07

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There are cultures in which it's considered normal or even pretty honorable to stay w your parents and take care of them as they get older.

It's interesting how far on the other end of the spectrum the perception is in our culture.
 
SViper

SViper

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Juked07 said:
There are cultures in which it's considered normal or even pretty honorable to stay w your parents and take care of them as they get older.

It's interesting how far on the other end of the spectrum the perception is in our culture.
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This.

It's sad how the American culture dictates that you need to move out of your parent's house ASAP even though you may not be ready for it (financially, mentally, etc).

Although I do not like how this TV show is portraying it either. I'm a little bias though because I generally do not like fake "reality" shows where the whole thing is staged/exaggerated.
 
silverpig

silverpig

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SViper said:
This.

It's sad how the American culture dictates that you need to move out of your parent's house ASAP even though you may not be ready for it (financially, mentally, etc).

Although I do not like how this TV show is portraying it either. I'm a little bias though because I generally do not like fake "reality" shows where the whole thing is staged/exaggerated.
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Yep. I can definitely see the benefit of staying with them until you are on your feet, then going away for a while, then living with them or right next to them after they retire.
 
DigDog

DigDog

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actually in many cultures (and until the 60s, really) people never left the home they were born in; moving out is a modern thing.
 
rh71

rh71

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Aug 28, 2001
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Juked07 said:
There are cultures in which it's considered normal or even pretty honorable to stay w your parents and take care of them as they get older.
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Yes, I'm asian too but I would not be "proud of it" and have "no plans to move out". You do that so you can get financially stable after college for a handful of years. Living beyond 30 at home is a bit go-nowhere-in-life.
 
xanis

xanis

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Sep 11, 2005
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coloumb said:
Nothing wrong with that as long as you're helping out.
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Agreed. I've been living with my parents for a year now since graduating. I pay my own bills, clean, and even cook; the only thing I don't pay for is rent.

It's not always the most fun or desirable situation, but it is the best situation for me right now. Living at home has allowed me to buy a new car with cash and will allow me to buy—not rent—my own place by the time I'm 24.

The best advice I can give to people graduating and starting out is to live at home for a year or two and save money. You won't be the coolest kid on the block, but you'll have more money and be in a better position.
 
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Childs

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I never came back after college, but I can foresee a time when my mom moves in with me. Cheaper than an old folks home, and she's my mother. I can see the same happening for in-laws if that should come up. They took care of you the first 18 or so years, so talking care of their last 18 or less years seems fine to me.
 
SP33Demon

SP33Demon

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Jun 22, 2001
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I could see it if something temporarily happened like you lost your job, but grown ass men should not be living at home otherwise. A good example of this is Howard on Big Bang Theory.
 
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Zedtom

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This is the guy next door to me. We sometimes chat over the back fence on weekends and he seems bored with his three cars and two motorcycles. He can't drive them after work because he's had DUI's and can only drive to work. I think the mother is about sixty-five and she still works so he has no bills or expenses other than gas. I guess he figures that the house is paid off and if he takes care of her for a few more years than all he sees is his.

Oh, I asked him if he needed any of my extra computer hardware and he said that he is completely computer illiterate. He drives a forklift on his job and comes home, drinks and watches tv. There's probably some people on this forum that think that's a dream life- forget it! He's bored to tears.
 
Capt Caveman

Capt Caveman

Lifer
Jan 30, 2005
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I'm sure it's cool to the few of these guys that can actually get a girl, to bring one home and when you open the door see, your mom who's all upset and worried about you b/c you came home later than you told her you were going to.
 
mmntech

mmntech

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Sep 20, 2007
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I lived at home after I graduated because I was poor and couldn't afford to move out. I hope those subprime mortgages were worth it guys.

Now that I have a real job, I plan on moving out within the next year. Just haven't decided how to go about it yet. Not sure if I should buy or rent. The idea of living with my parents into my 30s is horrifying.
 
Red Squirrel

Red Squirrel

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May 24, 2003
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I lived at home for a few years after graduating so I can pickup money to buy a house. My parents knew my plan and were ok with it. My dad actually did not really want me to leave or at least that's what he said, sometimes I had the vibe it was otherwise :p. I wanted my own Independence though. I bought my house at 23, 25 now, almost 26. I still go visit my parents regularly and they come visit me.
 
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Paul98

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I know a couple people in their mid 20's and over 30 that live with their parents. I find it really just has to do with the people and the family.

I think the problem is that most ether think it will be like or for them it is like it was back in high school. For these people it's not and it seems to work well, it's not like the parents are up at night worrying about if they will get home, or on them about this or that stupid thing. Heck one of my friends has lived all over the place since getting out of high school, now in his late 20's and moved back in with his parents for a while now and will be for a while longer.

Now for me I couldn't deal with it in my family, so I wouldn't go back with living with my parents unless I had to.

But since it works for them that's great
 
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