Okay... it's almost that time of the month again, and I'm feeling particularly b!tchy.
Right now, I'm REALLY pissed off at one of my guy friends. Tell me whether or not I have reason to be.
I just found out that he slept with a FOURTEEN YEAR OLD GIRL four years ago, when he was 20 and she was 14. He claims she lied to him and told him she was 17, but STILL. A 14-year-old??
That repulses and disgusts me... and maybe it's just because I'm ultra sensitive to EVERYTHING right now, but I b!tched him out and no longer respect him as a friend.
UGH! 20-YEAR-OLD GUYS WHO SLEEP WITH 14 YEAR OLD GIRLS MAKE ME SICK, and I am ASHAMED this person was ever my friend.
I hope to god I'm overreacting, but I'm FURIOUS right now...
UPDATE (for those who don't make it to the fourth page)
09/23/2003 9:52 AM
Okay... one gallon of mint chocolate chip Breyers ice cream, one conversation with my baby sister (age 14), about fifteen Midol, and six Family Guy episodes later...
I've calmed down significantly.
Reading back on my posts from yesterday... hot damn, saying I overreacted would be one helluva understatement. I won't make excuses for saying what I did, but I will attribute part of that to:
a) the period (I get psycho b!tch once a month, all who come across my path will suffer ),
b) my little sister's 14 years old, and for some sick reason I looked at him and saw him doing bad things to her, and she's sweet and innocent and was DEFINITELY raised better than that other girl, and so shy she wouldn't even be able to kiss a guy if he asked, and
c) I haven't seen my sister in half a year and I really miss her and wonder how she's doing since I can't be close to her to offer older sisterly support,
Culminated in my extreme reaction.
I've spoken to my friend since, and I apologized for b!tching him out. He was crying, and said that was the worst thing he'd ever done in his life... when he discovered this girl's real age, he cut all ties with her and refused to speak to her again (apparently she was starting to get really emotionally attached, and he swears he only slept with her twice). I felt a little sorry for the girl, who came from a pretty troubled background (many of the assumptions in this thread are correct... her parents really didn't care what she did, she had started partying/drinking/doing drugs at the age of 12-13, had lied to a few of his friends about her age as well and slept with THEM too... ugh... *sigh*)
Anyway, he says he still feels guilty about it, would NEVER do anything like that knowingly, and I believe him... he has an upstanding moral character otherwise, and is just a really good guy with a kind heart. The info still came as a shock to me, and I'm still not entirely over it... but my reaction yesterday was definitely over the top, and now that I'm in a slightly more rational mindset, I think things will be okay.
Interesting replies... I agree with many... thanks to all for your input.
(On a personal note, I started asking for ID in college. I know I'm legally and morally responsible for my actions, and I accept that... when I was 21, I asked one guy for his ID to make sure he was 18, and he was. Barely legal, but 18. Even if nothing happens, it's always better to be safe than sorry...)
UPDATE #2, 9/24/2003
Things are all better now, thanks for letting me vent.
Right now, I'm REALLY pissed off at one of my guy friends. Tell me whether or not I have reason to be.
I just found out that he slept with a FOURTEEN YEAR OLD GIRL four years ago, when he was 20 and she was 14. He claims she lied to him and told him she was 17, but STILL. A 14-year-old??
That repulses and disgusts me... and maybe it's just because I'm ultra sensitive to EVERYTHING right now, but I b!tched him out and no longer respect him as a friend.
UGH! 20-YEAR-OLD GUYS WHO SLEEP WITH 14 YEAR OLD GIRLS MAKE ME SICK, and I am ASHAMED this person was ever my friend.
I hope to god I'm overreacting, but I'm FURIOUS right now...
UPDATE (for those who don't make it to the fourth page)
09/23/2003 9:52 AM
Okay... one gallon of mint chocolate chip Breyers ice cream, one conversation with my baby sister (age 14), about fifteen Midol, and six Family Guy episodes later...
I've calmed down significantly.
Reading back on my posts from yesterday... hot damn, saying I overreacted would be one helluva understatement. I won't make excuses for saying what I did, but I will attribute part of that to:
a) the period (I get psycho b!tch once a month, all who come across my path will suffer ),
b) my little sister's 14 years old, and for some sick reason I looked at him and saw him doing bad things to her, and she's sweet and innocent and was DEFINITELY raised better than that other girl, and so shy she wouldn't even be able to kiss a guy if he asked, and
c) I haven't seen my sister in half a year and I really miss her and wonder how she's doing since I can't be close to her to offer older sisterly support,
Culminated in my extreme reaction.
I've spoken to my friend since, and I apologized for b!tching him out. He was crying, and said that was the worst thing he'd ever done in his life... when he discovered this girl's real age, he cut all ties with her and refused to speak to her again (apparently she was starting to get really emotionally attached, and he swears he only slept with her twice). I felt a little sorry for the girl, who came from a pretty troubled background (many of the assumptions in this thread are correct... her parents really didn't care what she did, she had started partying/drinking/doing drugs at the age of 12-13, had lied to a few of his friends about her age as well and slept with THEM too... ugh... *sigh*)
Anyway, he says he still feels guilty about it, would NEVER do anything like that knowingly, and I believe him... he has an upstanding moral character otherwise, and is just a really good guy with a kind heart. The info still came as a shock to me, and I'm still not entirely over it... but my reaction yesterday was definitely over the top, and now that I'm in a slightly more rational mindset, I think things will be okay.
Interesting replies... I agree with many... thanks to all for your input.
(On a personal note, I started asking for ID in college. I know I'm legally and morally responsible for my actions, and I accept that... when I was 21, I asked one guy for his ID to make sure he was 18, and he was. Barely legal, but 18. Even if nothing happens, it's always better to be safe than sorry...)
UPDATE #2, 9/24/2003
Things are all better now, thanks for letting me vent.
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