17 , and no real life friends ....

[anton]

Is this ok ?

I soon will be 18 years old and I don't have real life friends at all ... since I've moved from Russia to US , I don't remember that I had any friends ... and life is getting very bored like this ... is there anybody in the same situation ... or was in the same situation ... how did you get out of this ?


and of course in whole my life I've never had a date ....no, I'm not a gay .... and I'm absolutely not considering myself a bad looking ...

I don't know even what to do ... that's a good things that I have a lot of internet friends

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Try getting together with some of your forum friends if they live near you.


Play sports and meet people.


Work out at a gym and meet people.


Go to college to meet people --community colleges are better for meeting people.


Play public games.


Get a job that will expose your personality to many people.

 

[Passions]

why dont u go and join the ycma

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

yeah. And learn to spell right along with this guy.

 

[Wangel]

Kockpu jvita -

Speak Russian and act like a spy. Chicks really dig it! Especially in the airport or in fancy restaurants.

 

[toph99]

sounds like me but 3 years older i have no problem with my life. i do have some 'friends' who live near me, but they don't mean anythign to me. my friends on here are true friends. do what works for you

 

[Czar]

I understand, the best thing I did was change school, it changed my life, I met people more like me.

 

[lowtech1]

Join a club, get rid of your computer, TV & games.

 

[thebestMAX]

Dont worry. You will have a lot of acquantances but very few real friends in life. Just let it come.

 

[KidViciou$]

do yo ugo to school? that is the #1 source IMO. mainly because most of the people at my work are much older

 

[Mday]

anton, i'm gonna be 21 in a few months, can count on one hand, and i have no one close to me...

 

[Impact55]

is this guy for real?

 

[Jedi Mike]

Become more social at skool or be a cool guy.

 

[Soybomb]

You my friend need to find some people your age with similar interests, be it through talking before class, hanging around places that are close to your interest (arcade, basketball court, etc, or whatever.
I'm 19, and have a handful of friends in real life but I think I'm very close to like 70% of them and I have no complaints at all! Remember it doesnt take but a few...

 

[Angrymarshmello]

I have no real life friends either - in all seriousness. The one date I've been on was for Homecoming one year. The last time I went anywhere with "real" friends was about 3 summers ago when this kid and me got in a car accident because he drove like a reckless maniac. I tell myself to go out and try to meet new people but its not as easy as most of you think it is.

 

[nd]

I'm 19 and have no real life friends.. been this way since I was 17 (I had friends before then, but moved before my Junior year in high school).. it killed me.. I always thought "sure, I'll make friends eventually".. but it never improved... so the moral of this story is.. don't listen to the people here who say "it'll just happen", because it's simply not necessarily true.

You do get used to it though, it really screws around with your personality too.. I think I'll have friends again once I move out and live in the dorms.

 

[GL]

Actually meeting people is really easy. But a lot of people just don't know what to do to break the ice. That's why playing sports and other things like that are so good for meeting people - they break the ice.

There's no replacement for "real life" friends. Look at the words you are using - "real life". That means you don't consider online people to be part of your "real life". Start talking more with people at school, join some after-school clubs, pick up a sport, just do something. Socializing shouldn't just involve typing into a keyboard and reading from a monitor although that is certainly one aspect of it.

-GL

 

[prodigy]

Don't worry about quantity either, I'd rather have 2 or 3 really good friends rather than 20 acquaintances.

 

[Gatsby]

anton

Don't really worry about it. I didn't have a good set of friends till I was 16 and I;ve stuck with them ever since.
I have a few friends that did not have friends till college and later. So if you can go to college and try to be social there. COllege is a great way to start over becasue no one knows you and if they do you can just fit into a group that you know and like. Its kinda funny for me though. I've changed groups of friends a lot during my 3 years at college. Although I have had the same friends, the level at which I know them has changed. Just take it with the flow and enjoy it.

Gatsby

 

[kduncan5]

I'm a 45 year old recovering alcoholic/addict. Most of the friends I had were beer-guzzling, drug-taking, and 30 miles from where I live now. Out of all of them, I'd say there are 2 that I would still consider friends and I haven't seen either of them in at least 2 years. In my recovery I've made several friends, but none that I'd trust my life with. Of all the people I've met recently, the members of this Forum have proven to be more valuable friends to me than anyone else.

Just stating the facts as I see them.....-kd5-

 

[Blain]

Spray paint the inside of your windows black.
Leave the lights off most of the time. The glow from your monitor will be all you need.
Don't shave or bathe regularly.
Order as much as you can over the internet. That way you don't have to leave your house much. Only open the door to get your UPS packages after dark.

Wait a minute... :Q
Did someone tell you to sell your computer?
What CPU do you have in it?
How far can you overclock it?
How much RAM does it have?
Do you have a V5 in it?
How much for it Shipped?

[Edit] I'm 38. If you end up with 2 or 3 "real" friends in your life, you'll be doing good.
BTW...
That gives me a good idea for a new topic.

 

[Tominator]

kduncan5...Same here! I lost all my 'friends' when I stopped drinking! I really don't miss them that much.

Anand's is a great place! Although I'll fight tooth and nail with any number of Members here, I think of them more as Friends than as anything else.

anton Russia to the US? WOW! We could all learn somethoing from your experiences.

DO NOT act anything! Be yourself. Be honest. That is what will get you far in life.

The YMCA is a good suggestion! Volunteer for community activities as well.

BTW, I think you are perfectly normal. I lost my Best Friend to cancer when we were 16. I'm 46 now and have never had another really close friend.

You are welcome here....and yes, it is OK.

 

[U2fan]

Find a church and go there learn about Jesus, the best friend anyone can have, and meet great people and friends.
People will accept you if you are yourself don't try to be someone your not.

 

[Tominator]

U2fan..easy there! Folks have gotten banned around here for even suggesting someone go to Church! Which is a fine idea....

 

[Buttzilla]

the best thing you can do is go to the nearest college campus on a weekend...lots of drunk girls!