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Old 04-06-2006, 12:44 PM   #1
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So here's the abridged as much as possible version:
I meet this girl at this group I joined. I invite her out to a book reading but instead we end up chatting it up for a few hours. It wasn't planned as a date but I think turned into one due to my charming ways (that's sarcasm if you've ever read my YAGT threads). Anyways, one thing let to another and she ends up at my place to watch the spongebob movie.

She's lying on my bed and we start cuddling a bit - arms wrapped around her sorta stuff. The line "I just got this amazing new pillow that you have to try!" actually worked and got her to lay down and get comfortable.. anyway, we spoon and hold hands for a good hour and i try to kiss her - she says "this is only our first date, we're moving too fast..." i slow down and go back to just holding her hands..

the awkwardness is the good night hug felt kinda weak - like she wanted to leave in a rush... now, i could be looking into things too much but, well, most people our age screw on the first date so kissing is such a minor thing to me.. chase this girl and ask her for a 2nd date or move on?
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:45 PM   #2
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move on.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:46 PM   #3
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I wouldn't base whether or not you like her on if you kissed her on the first date.

Do you like her? Ask her out again.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:46 PM   #4
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see her a second time.

involve alchohol to lower inhibitions

if still no kiss after second date. NEXT HO!
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:46 PM   #5
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She probably felt like you were looking to get laid. Go for another date and see if it changes. If not, move on, or back to your hand. Whatever works.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:46 PM   #6
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She doesn't find you attractive. She just wants to be friends. Physically, she finds you sickening and she rushed out, because she wanted to throw up..

Don't ask for 2nd date.. Just go build another computer and play WoW all night..












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Old 04-06-2006, 12:47 PM   #7
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Well if you held her hand and stuck your manhood on her butt, that kinda negates not kissing her. Ask her out again.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:47 PM   #8
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move on.
Yep. No kissing on first date means there shouldn't be a second date.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:47 PM   #9
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Give it another shot.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:47 PM   #10
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she lets you spoon, cuddle and hold hands, and wont kiss you. so, it is ok for her to put her entire body against your, but not her lips?

weird girl.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:47 PM   #11
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She doesn't find you attractive. She just wants to be friends. Physically, she finds you sickening and she rushed out, because she wanted to throw up..

Don't ask for 2nd date.. Just go build another computer and play WoW all night..
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:47 PM   #12
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:48 PM   #13
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second date seems reasonable in this case.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:48 PM   #14
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see her a second time.

involve alchohol to lower inhibitions

if still no kiss after second date. NEXT HO!
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:48 PM   #15
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She probably felt like you were looking to get laid. Go for another date and see if it changes. If not, move on, or back to your hand. Whatever works.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:48 PM   #16
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asking her on a 2nd date would be mandatory here. You'll better learn how she thinks of you. Holding hands is a sign of affection, as is spooning. so she at least was interested mildly at one point. Right after you went to kiss did she leave? Also if she said 'we're moving too fast' it implies there is a 'we' so you should be happy. 2nd date it is
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:49 PM   #17
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see her a second time.

involve alchohol to lower inhibitions

if still no kiss after second date. NEXT HO!
your advice is always welcome - i think i'll do that.. the damn girl only had 2 beers during a 4 hour conversation... i gotta convince her to switch to something harder i guess...
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:50 PM   #18
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it's a good thing... maybe. she's either
a) not a ho
b) a big time prude
c) doesn't really dig you that much

here's hoping for A.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:50 PM   #19
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she lets you spoon, cuddle and hold hands, and wont kiss you. so, it is ok for her to put her entire body against your, but not her lips?

weird girl.
My thoughts, too. Iwouldn't let it preclude from going on another date, but it would definitely send up a red flag that this girl might have some issues.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:50 PM   #20
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see her a second time.

involve alchohol to lower inhibitions

if still no kiss after second date. NEXT HO!
your advice is always welcome - i think i'll do that.. the damn girl only had 2 beers during a 4 hour conversation... i gotta convince her to switch to something harder i guess...
wine usually does the trick for me. 3 glasses of wine seesm to work better than 3 beers. and its less fluids to consume.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:51 PM   #21
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she lets you spoon, cuddle and hold hands, and wont kiss you. so, it is ok for her to put her entire body against your, but not her lips?

weird girl.
Depends how long he's known her. Some women still find kissing to be an emotinal meaningful thing, so yeah....more reserved I guess for people they don't know well.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:51 PM   #22
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Wow, a girl with values that doesn't sleep around. RUN AWAY!

And, ummm, what's with the choice of movies?
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:53 PM   #23
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Wow, a girl with values that doesn't sleep around. RUN AWAY!

And, ummm, what's with the choice of movies?
Agreed, no kiss = no second date? OMGTEH MORALS!1111!!!!11!!

Weird movie choice though.
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Old 04-06-2006, 12:53 PM   #24
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she lets you spoon, cuddle and hold hands, and wont kiss you. so, it is ok for her to put her entire body against your, but not her lips?

weird girl.
We weren't naked or anything - it was actually pretty sweet and not skeezy, she kept on calling me really sweet. I think that may be part of it, I may have been putting out cuddle vibes vs. rip your clothes off vibes, that's why I wanted to go for the kiss... but, yeah.. 2nd date seems fair though that hug.. was weird.. sure she was getting into a cab but, still...
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she lets you spoon, cuddle and hold hands, and wont kiss you. so, it is ok for her to put her entire body against your, but not her lips?

weird girl.
My thoughts, too. Iwouldn't let it preclude from going on another date, but it would definitely send up a red flag that this girl might have some issues.
the longer this thread gets, the older and more out of touch i feel

I ... hmmm... well, i dont think it is appropriate for a girl to lay on a bed and spoon a guy on the first date to begin with. And to me, the thought of someone i did not know for a bit longer than a first date to exchange spit with... it would gross me out.

Hahaha... maybe i am becoming a prude in my old age. but i am just soooo not into strangers laying in my bed and putting their tongue in my mouth... gross.

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