FIXED ! typing this on the undead computer
what happened is when i installed ram yesterday i got this message:
http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8196/8...9f9757df_k.jpg
and like an id1ot i pressed F2
it then wiped out all my settings, reset them to default and loaded windows.
then today the PC wouldn't start because it disabled RAID in BIOS because it's disabled by default.
it also enabled the BIOS splash screen, which is the default but i had it disabled. the appearance of the splash screen was the clue that it had reset the settings.
i read the mobo manual and it said CTRL+I to get to RAID setup, but no matter how many times i tried i couldn't get in. then i re-read the mobo manual and it said that to get to the RAID setup you must first enable RAID in BIOS.
so i found the settings in BIOS and re-enabled the RAID and voila - it booted straight up - i never needed to go into the RAID menu to adjust anything - merely enable RAID to begin with.
i then installed the RAM again, got the message again and took the picture for you ... only this time i pressed F1 and not F2 which took me to BIOS where i didn't touch anything and just saved and exited.
then just to be sure i shut the PC down, and booted it up again - no problems.
moral of the story - i am an id1iot - next time before wiping all the BIOS settings maybe i should just slow down and think for a second !
thanks everybody !